Wednesday, August 15, 2007

Book Review: The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior without Whining, Tantrums and Tears

I am very thankful that blogs were invented, since I started blogging April of 2006 new doors were opened, I had the opportunity to meet great and extraordinary people and I started to really get to know the real me, know my strengths and weakness and it enabled me to become a better person.

One person I have gotten to know through blogging is Elizabeth Pantley, a parent, educator, a mom like me and an author of eight books for parents including the best-selling No-Cry Series: The No-Cry Sleep Solution, The No-Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers and The No-Cry Potty Training Solution. I was flattered when she e-mailed me and told me that she read my blog and it seems we share the same ideas on parenting. She asked me if I want to have a copy of her new book The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior without Whining, Tantrums and Tears and give my review on it, of course I agreed for I am really interested on what I can learn on parenting. I take parenting very seriously, I have several subscriptions on parenting sites and own several books on the subject.

I have received her book though snail mail just over a week ago and enjoyed reading her book. I would like to share what I have learned reading it.

About the book:
The book is written for parents of children aged two through eight and tackles about how parents know that raising children is one of the best and rewarding job but disciplining them is can sometimes be challenging, complicated and frustrating. It teaches parents on how they can promote good behavior, how to be firm without the shouting and the tears and how discipline can be effective through a positive and fun ways.

It was tested by hundreds of families worldwide and in every childrearing situation: working families, single and stay-at-home parents, twins and multiples, and children of varying age and temperament, is documents how the No-Cry Discipline help and made a difference in their lives. The book has dozens of ‘real life’ examples and tips from parents worldwide.

My reactions to the book:
The book for me is exciting, informative and to my surprise very touching. There were parts of the book were I cried, it was really heart warming specially how tips given by other parents are placed just on the right part of the page and it seems that they read what is going on your mind at that precise time. One memorable part of the book that still remain with me till now is the part were the author shared about when she and her son Coleton were walking in a busy street and being a typical kindergartener, curious about everything Coleton keeps lagging behind, and being in a hurry she shouted at him to hurry up and quit dawdling. And when he did catch up with her, with tear-filled eyes said, “Next time you feel like being mad at me, why don’t you just hug me instead and then tell me what you want me to do”, we as parents sometimes do that, shout at our child for the smallest reason that makes the child more confused and inevitably hurt.

The book really reached out to me as a parent, it understood what I am going through and offers great advice on topics and situations that I struggle as a parent.

To my surprise the book really reflected and affirmed by beliefs on parenting and enhances the skills I currently have. It gives specific solutions to everyday problem which I find most helpful for it gives perspective to what seems to be a very big situation but when we step back and think about it the solutions are very simple and how the situation can be avoided in the future.

One of the lessons I learned by reading the book is knowing your goal as parents – It is about raising your child, looking ahead, envisioning you child as a teenager then as an adult, ask yourself what kind of person would I like him to be? then start planning now how can your child be that person in the future for our actions today affects his future. This lesson had a great impact on me, for I consciously try to mold my son to be respectful, kind, loving and happy person, but was afraid to let other people know that that’s what I am doing for they might say I am too controlling or to that effect.

My Recommendations:
While reading the book I thought of several friends who would be helped by this book. I highly recommend this book to parents that have children aged two through eight, especially first time parents who have insecurities in their abilities in parenting. I have met parents who seem to not understand or know how to approach or communicate with their children; I see their children being withdrawn and have no confidence in undertaking new things. I would have told them that if they hug their children more and talk to them at their level and be less judgmental, their worries will be gone. This book will be great for them.

The No-Cry Discipline Solution: Gentle Ways to Encourage Good Behavior without Whining, Tantrums and Tears is available at Barnes and Noble, Borders, Books A Million, Book Sense, McGraw Hill, Powells. I am just not sure if its available in the Philippines though.


Christianne said...

Pantley is a terrific writer, I only have No-Cry Sleep Solution but I liked that it was written from the POV of a caring mom. Thanks for sharing this review!

I'm curious, are time-outs mentioned in the book?

Elizabeth Pantley said...

Hi Joan,
Thank you for such a lovely and touching book reivew. It's wonderful to know that my ideas can reach out to others and help them feel good about being a parent. Stay in touch.
Elizabeth ~^*

joan_pinon said...

@christianne - Pantley is really good. Yes there is a part on timeouts

@elizabeth - your welcome, I'll stay in touch, and visit your site regularly

Janette Toral said...

Hi Joan. This is a great review. I should give my sister a copy of this book. Thanks!

joan_pinon said...

@janette toral - thanks! I really like the book and enjoyed reading it.